Well? So how did it go? You came correct, you took your jump offs to IHOP (and paid!)…or you treated your girlfriends to a Valentine’s spa day. Good work…
But did you get any? And more importantly, if you did would you tell? I mean would you tell ME, because chances are you already told your boys how it all went down. That’s what guys do, they tell. Girls do to, to some degree. But it never seems as, I don’t know, inappropriate. Maybe it should. Maybe I’m biased. Maybe I just don’t know the guys’ side of the story. What I do know is that my girls have a lot more sex than I hear about. Yet it would appear that my guy friends can’t shut up about new “conquests.”
“Yes, he FINALLY stayed the night and we got busy.” That’s what my girls would say.
“You remember the girl I intro’d you to at D’s party? Yo, she purrs when we hit. Is that normal?” That’s what one of my boys will say.
“Lemme tell you about dude from the bbq. Long story short, I fucked him, and ….” My girls.
“I smashed.” My dudes.
She was right; she was up in the Range man (she know me)
Dropped her off at the L, now I'm flippin the cell
That's right, I had to call up L
Yo L (whattup?) I hit (what else)
Plus dome (say word), and we got it on tonight
~"Hey Ma", Cam & Juelz (I swear there won't be any more DipSet references on this damn blog!)
Perhaps the differences are only subtle, but I detect a gender distinction here. But I would like to know from guys…is telling your friends part of the excitement of sex? And how much do you tell? Do you just give the highlights, or do you do a full blow by blow of positions and conversations and setting? And do your boys ask follow up questions? And since men are allegedly such vision creatures, do y’all like, SHOW and tell?
As always, I do have a point with this. A personal story actually. But I’m not quite ready to share it yet. During the long weekend out of town, I essentially reached my tipping point. And I’m very interested in knowing what people think about going public with their sexual experiences. Holler at me…
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Virgin here, but my male friends and I do talk about it, and it's more tactful than you think, depending on the guys. I mean my friends do give ratings, and say in what area of performance a woman/girl is more skilled! We only get specific when specifics are needed to fully understand a situation i.e. it was extremely good and bad. And females do some of the same ish. I get that best boyfriend ish so I've heard from some women too, ya'll do some viciousness. My manhood be hurting. In the end people share out of pride, share cause it was a highlight of their recent history, or if it was bad real bad!
I share. I share when it's good. But I REALLY share when it's bad, and the people I'm sharing with don't know the girl.
Hell, I just found a chick who knows how to give decent head. I definitely shared that.
Hm...I read this yesterday, I've been meaning to comment but, when you say share publicly do you mean like with your crew? Or do you mean share publicly on the blog... With crew for sure. We always do (although I personally have not had much to contribute lately). Under normal circumstances.... If you mean on the blog, that's a tough one. I probably would because no one that I know here knows I have a blog otherwise they'd know exactly who I was talking about. I guess it depends on how comfortable you feel. I'd imagine it would be quite liberating though.-hk
I share bits and pieces on occasion to only a couple of people. Usually when something new is tried or something a little different happens. I never was really a part of the locker room gossip vibe. Even still some of the talk with buddies believe it or not regards useful techniques/comparing because different types of women experience different types of orgasm/different types of freaks etc. Names are rarely used because we don't usually run in the same circle. Even if we do meet or interact with each others females at some point in time, there is a high level of maturity as if we never knew at all. Anonymous Detroit
SWS: I've always had a gang of guy friends who speak freely when I'm around, and believe me, our collective ears would burn w/some of the shyt I've been privy to...
But I do love it when my dude friends share the "bad experiences" (even though bad sex is still good, let them tell it) 'cause those convos are funny as hell!! ha ha.
I love boys. They're stupid.
its different. my female friends from home are sooooo closed mouthed its ridiculous. i mean not even a "i let him hit it." i'm talking about denial in some cases. my friends from hampton??? hot damn. most of them you can't get to shut up and as vulgar as any dude.
my guy friends will tell all until i'm like ok enuf!!! sometimes its too much. but some people are just talkers. i have guy friends who won't tell all even to their guy friends. depends on the sitch. even the non-talker is spillin on some occasion, good or bad.
Hey Virgin...do your guy friends give you shit for not getting any? I think that's so cool. Writing a book about it actually.
Big M...you hit the nail right on the head, so to speak. The next post is especially for you.
Hokai...I mean do you blab to your crew? The blog issue is a whole different one...in your case I can see that it would be completely harmless...but I cringe anytime I see a dude blabbing on his blog about how he got slobbed down.
Detroit...I love that your boys network and have panel discussions on how to perform. So cute. And I can sense your maturity, which is cool too. The opposite is what is F'ing up the game for everyone.
SS: I pity my girlfriends who dont have good guy friends. It is absolutely eye opening! And hilarious!
Jameil...Hampton...enough said! lol Your girls at home must be doing some real charity humping, not wanting anyone to know. lol But you're right, it's case by case. Some talk, some don't. True true.
Dudes talk bec it's a part of our ego. Ever heard of the book HUNG? Imagine that, a book about a nigga's pipe. But yo it was kind of enlightening, to really recognize that sex, especially for black men is something that we feel empowered by. It's an expectation on us, that we all 9 inches (like me), can all lay it down all night long, and do this every day of the week if you so choose. So we need a forum to gather and discuss. And plus that's how we learned about sex in the first place. By listening to the older cats talk. It's passed down fa real!
Wise, don't front...you don't talk? Tell the world about Kat Boy senior year. HA ~Trev
Wanna know what a true hetero man really thinks (feelings and all) read my blog.
Now back to your question. Up until my blog I never really told any one of my activity. That's part of the reason I have sooooo much activity. I'm on the low-low (of the heterosexual variety) and I kept my mouth shut.
Yeah I told my dudes about the most FREAKIEST jump-offs but that's were it ended. Sometimes dudes can be real "bitch-like" and run their mouths which can end up getting you caught up.
Now the women I know...definitely talk to they girls about their sex. They even talk about the men they have feelings for. Ya'll share too much intimate info - like dick sizes, how many times you came and how skilled his tongue is.
All that does is get you set up to have your girl sleep with your dude. Word to the wise. ;o)
I don't tell unless i'm asked. Even then I never go into detail.
I'M LYIN I tell!!! Sometimes me my boys have a cypher and talk about the chocha for hours at a time. She had a wet one, dry one, Who screams, which Chick can take it in the Roast Duck position( Don't ask but pics can be provided)
Mr. Slish: what the hell is the roast duck?
Yeah...inquiring minds, umm... might want to try it. lol
Ask and you shall recieve in SPADES!!!!
http://galleries.videosz.com/black-bad-girls-12_2/1,188,0.html
Roast Duck Position is the first pic on the left..lol
Oh. Okay. Didn't know it had a name! I just call it "when you're on your back and a brotha is pushing your legs all up near your ears" position.
LOL!
HaHa it's the virgin again, ummm do my friends give me crap? Ummm not in most cases. I mean it's brought up a lot, in a "Did you get any yet? sort of way. HaHa being a college student, I gets hella grief for not breaking off everything with a slit or a slot.
But in all seriousness I've had females tell me, that maybe the V-card needs to go, and they were not joking.
And I've even had adults tell me that I needed to pursue a relationship, and they even alluded to my maybe needing to be broke off a little something. They weren't saying go be loose. But they were saying if you don't act soon, questions will begin to be raised about your sexuality, and it has.
Well I wouldn't say i blab. I have a very small circle of girlfriends, and my guy friends are not ones that I really talk about that stuff with or vice versa. Because my circle is so small and we know eachother pretty well, it doesn't really require a "blabbing" perrrsay. It's usually like, if they knew I was goin out with someone or something and depending on the person, they can usually judge pretty accurately what the outcome was or will be. FOr instance, the morning after the date, I normally get a phone call like, "...You did it with him didn't you. I know you did. Don't lie". Then it comes out from there. "Alright! I did damnit and it was ___________". THen if there was an important moment in there, we may share it. THat's it. Or they're all into the energy thing, so if they see me first, it may be: "Look at you....you got that n*****s energy all-over-you. That's a damn shame". The telling can best be described as the conversation in Love Jones between Nia Long and her home girl in the cab. Remember that one? Is that considered blabbing?
Oooooooooh the roast duck. Of course! So not only do dudes talk, but they name their joints. Cool.
Well Virgin, what do YOU think? I'm sure you're holding out for a reason. Forget what your friends and your females say...the right time will be the right time...FOR YOU.
Khalli...you make a very good brokeback point. lol
Hokai...the cab scene in Love Jones is one of my favs of all time. Perfect analogy. I don't think it's blabbing if you're prodded. Nosy is nosy! lol
Virgin here...holding out for when sex means making love, and not just banging bodies.
I've been tempted, but I haven't found that person with whom I want to exchange my spirit.
Love is that transaction which can yield good returns.
Well, I have to admit that I share info. with my best friend...but it's mostly along the lines of it was good or bad. Not too much more. But I don't talk about my sex life at all with anyone else. Heck, now that I think about it, I don't even talk about my 'sex life' on my blog, and that's a semi-anonymous arena.
charity humping hahahaha! one of my friends at home will holla at any dude who seems like he has money. i think its the southern in them mostly. they just think its in bad taste to talk about it.
Wise words Cheerio (Serial Dater...yeah I'm corny). But your blog is one of my fav reads. Entertaining as hell, and actually remind me a lot of my guy friends who always tell me about their exploits. lol
I'm with you Living Single...my sex life probably won't see the light of day on my blog. Not unsolicited anyway. lol
Jameil...that shit is hilarious. It's cool to be a gold digger, just as long as you don't put it on front street! Makes perfect sense. lol
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